上述正反兩面因素並不是絕對的,確實有一些無名無分的男女過著快樂的二人世界生活,而破碎的婚姻同樣會製造各類煩惱及後遺症。不過,在現實裡,男女在戀愛成熟的時候,若不考慮結婚,很容易錯過最佳的婚姻時刻,如及早建立和諧家庭生活,尤其是在關係上的委身(commitment)、滿足(satisfaction)及穩定(stability)幾方面(見美國Scott Stanley教授,2019年2月7日,Institute for Family Studies網站)。另外,也有些研究發現,先同居後結婚的離婚率似乎比直接結婚高,這結論也並不是絕對。不過,假若同居者日後因各種環境而被迫結婚(尤其是奉子成婚),會減低「從此以後,過著幸福快樂生活」的機會。
This is not just a book about war, damage and rebuilding. Dr. Mak has written a provoking piece of work for anyone who may or may not realize that we are facing an existential threat which is not that far away. The reading would also bring us into the past and modern perspective of war and rebuilding which will continue to come, hopefully with more preventive efforts on the factors leading to war by drawing the wisdom from the bible.